The school year has already started for some, and it’s just around the corner for others. As a
mom, the feeling of being overwhelmed for ourselves and our children can be a lot. While we’re struggling with determining our new back to school routine, we are also dealing with ways to handle a rollercoaster of emotions, the possibility of COVID outbreaks AGAIN, the security of the school system, and so much more.
On top of ALL of that, our children are worried about if they’ll be put in classes with their friends, impressing or loving their new teachers, anxious about a new grade level and making good grades and most of all, making sure are liked and fit in.
I have two elementary-age students who have previously been diagnosed with mental health
conditions. One of my daughters is dealing with anxiety while my other daughter is learning how to learn with ADHD. At the same time, I’m learning how to make their school year successful academically and behaviorally, all while balancing the million and one other things.
As a Mental Health Professional, I could offer a bunch of BS and a list of things, but let’s be
honest, life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. We’re not overworking or overwhelming ourselves this year. We’re going to be INTENTIONAL in how we prioritize and find balance.
Here’s 5 thing you need to intentionally do:
1.Make sure you’re taking time for yourself.
Being a parent is hard as hell, whether you’re alone or have a partner. Too many times you continue to pour from an empty cup, but you need to make sure you are putting yourself FIRST and getting a refill OFTEN. (cues Refill by Elle Varner)
2. Create a Routine.
Having an established routine is beneficial not only for you but also for your kids. It will allow
you to plan and make sure y’all are on the same page.
3.Be Aware of the Changes in Your Kids.
Going back to school can be hard on your kids. Anxiety is normal and can show up in a variety of ways when kids return back to school. Watch their behavior, have open and honest discussions and be prepared to listen.
4. Learn when to say No.
As Moms, we often overcommit to things even when it doesn’t involve our children. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, and deserve to have space to say no without feeling guilty. Remember, NO is a complete sentence.
Perfection is overrated. You will hit some bumps in the road and there will be moments where you need to just scream or cry, and that is ok. Know that you are putting your best foot forward, and that is enough.
As you navigate the new school year, don’t forget to extend yourself the same grace that you often extend to others, and just in case you haven’t heard It from anyone else today, you are DOPE PERIOD.